So this behavior thing has GOT TO CHANGE.
Chuck and I have a plan. A new strategy for the kids. We will triumph. Mark my words.
It's concise. Straightforward. Like my writing right now. It's nothing revolutionary but we feel good about it, and I think it will get us all on the exact same page.
For Ryker, we are also instituting a new sticker chart. Instead of having a very consequence-focused approach with him, which is what it's come to in the last few months, we are focusing on rewards. It will be based on him talking about his feelings as well as his behavior at school.
I came home completely jazzed about this. I also planned to really work on getting them to talk more about their feelings. Ryk is barely doing that. Jack does it sporadically. Before I could even get going, Ryker revealed that some kids are being mean to him at school, complete with details about what they are saying.
I started to talk to Jack about that at bedtime, in the hopes that me letting him in on the "adult" stuff would help his behavior towards his brother. He cut me off, in a nice way, and said "kids are teasing me too."
I must have just had a "tell Momma all about it" kind of look on my face. I'm really glad they both told me, and we have plans in place, and neither is anything horrifically awful, but hearing that your kids are feeling sad is THE WORST THING EVER. We'll work on it all though - their feelings, their reaction to peers, their control over their own words and actions. Giddy up.
As an aside - we had Jack's well child appointment yesterday. I love those. We love our pediatrician a lot. Jack is 4'5" and 74 lbs. That puts him in the 92nd percentile for weight and 99th for height. Height predictors now put him at 6'6".
He was adorable - answering questions himself and giggling through the entire appointment, including his Tetanus shot. I would think that was really odd, but I used to laugh (instead of cry) while the trainers at Carleton worked all the knots out of my back with their elbows, so I kind of get it.
That's all.
2 comments:
6'6?? Holy moly. I mean I'm not surprised. I'm just wondering how much longer I have where I can see the top of his head. Good luck with the new plan, and its great they are talking about how they feel. I think at some point every little kid gets picked on at school (I did too... hello boy hair cut and "Bethy Butt") so its good they are learning how to deal!! xo
Beth - School? LOL...how about at home when your sister and cousin made you run interference for them?
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